tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5523671.post112897777075780789..comments2023-10-25T03:40:43.931-07:00Comments on Ne Cresin so Arthaey: Salsa Poster Controversy, and SexualityArthaey Angosiihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17107174886837969594noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5523671.post-1167068662089451942006-12-25T09:44:00.000-08:002006-12-25T09:44:00.000-08:00Just an update: he's back to living with us full-t...Just an update: he's back to living with us full-time, because finding a place to live, any place to live, in NYC on minimum wage is practically impossible. (He's saving money so he can get an apprenticeship as a music producer.) Fortunately for us three drama queens, he's a fairly low-impact personality.John Cowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11452247999156925669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5523671.post-1129057196705339712005-10-11T11:59:00.000-07:002005-10-11T11:59:00.000-07:00John: The living arrangement with your daughter's ...John: The living arrangement with your daughter's boyfriend is quite unusual, but then the circumstances also sound unusual, so I'm glad it works for you. <BR/><BR/>On sensible parent: I agree that if you generally thought your parents did a good job of raising you, then you'll tend to find smaller things to complain about. Just to be clear, I <EM>do</EM> think that, by and large, my parents were very reasonable and lenient. I've certainly heard of friends and acquaintances who didn't have it so lucky. This post just ended up focusing on one area where I wish things could have been different, that's all.<BR/><BR/>I hope my mom (who does read my blog) understands what I'm saying here and what I mean. (<I>*big hugs*</I>, Mom! I love you. :))Arthaey Angosiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17107174886837969594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5523671.post-1129037841904531712005-10-11T06:37:00.000-07:002005-10-11T06:37:00.000-07:00Not all of us parents are so squeamish.On movies: ...Not all of us parents are so squeamish.<BR/><BR/>On movies: we've always been a lot more concerned about violence than sex in movies and TV. Neither one is particularly realistic, but people eventually find that out for themselves when it comes to sex; I think the reason there's so much emphasis on serial killers on TV (and they're really pretty rare, let's face it) is simply that they don't have an Anti-Defamation League.<BR/><BR/>On sexuality: Our daughter's boyfriend has been sleeping over every Saturday night (except when <I>she's</I> on restriction for some reason) since the beginning. Way better, we thought, for her to have her first experiences in her own home and bed than God-knows-where under God-knows-what circumstances. During one summer he was actually living in our house for a month or so; his parents are dead and he was between living arrangements. That was a strain in a NYC apartment, so now he's here on Tuesday and Thursday evenings plus Saturday afternoon/Sunday only, going home after Sunday dinner.<BR/><BR/>On alcohol: I decided back as a teen that given the amount of alcoholism in my father's family (not including him, fortunately), I was better off not finding out if I was one of them, so I have never touched the stuff. My daughter is adopted, so she experimented sensibly, discovered her limits, and rarely drinks. New York State is quite nasty about under-21 drinking and facilitation thereof, so I'll say no more.<BR/><BR/>On sensible parents: I had sensible parents myself, and one problem is that it's then necessary to rebel about trivia rather than the important stuff. As a result, I still have to think twice every morning about whether I've brushed my teeth or not. Annoying. :-)John Cowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11452247999156925669noreply@blogger.com