I spent some time at Barnes & Noble yesterday, looking at wedding-planning books. I've concluded that I must be a bad female, because I just don't get a lot of what goes into the "traditional" expensive wedding and all its assorted related parties.
- bridesmaids, maid of honor
- What does a bridesmaid do? What does the maid of honor do that's distinct from that?
- groomsmen, best man
- Ditto the bridesmaids question, but for the guys. And what if all but one of the single guys are also my close friends?
- rehearsal dinner
- If you go through the whole thing as practice run, doesn't that make the wedding itself feel like "hey, we've done this before"?
- bachelor and bachelorette parties
- We're supposed to celebrate our soon-to-be-gone life as singles, "one last hurrah" before we're no longer single. But... what if we've been living together for 4 years now — I haven't been single in a long time, as far as I'm concerned. And pretty much all our friends our mutual, and male. I would feel pretty left out if Forrest went out partying with all my friends but I wasn't invited, especially since I have like one close female friend so I couldn't even do "my own" party.
- escort card tree
- ...the hell? Never even heard of such a thing until today.
- wedding favors, invitations
- I have to agree with a lot of websites on this one: Who actually keeps these things? Maybe the mothers and grandparents of the bride and groom. But I'd be surprised if my friends, cousins, etc are really going to hang on to a wedding favor or invitation for any reason but guilt over throwing it away.
- bridal shower
- What goes on at such things? And why are there no "groom showers"? Men so need more showers than women do. ;)
The more I look at books and web pages about wedding planning, the more it seems like the reception is just a big dinner party shindig. With pretty dresses and candles. But still, basically a dinner party. If our wedding party is only 25-30 people, I don't really get how this is so much more of a big deal to plan compared to, say Christmas dinner. I am wrong?